I try to think of this question as an analogy of a hug because it is one we have discussed as well in Bible class. You accept Jesus as the only way to heaven and you hug him. You turn and hes still hugging you. Even if you do not want a hug from someone, they can still hug you, but it would only be one way. I believe when we are sitting in front of the throne when trying to enter through the gates, he will judge us upon whether or not we realized we were alone and cold and needed that hug............Was that even making sence?